A) Grieving is normal and ok. You are hit with overwhelming emotions of all sorts
Just to name a few. You are perfectly fine to feel all these emotions and even many more. When confronted with the onset of emotions you will undergo phyiscal changes as well loss of appetite, insomnia, headaches, irritability, light headedness and more. Suicidal thoughts are normal as well.
GETTING THROUGH THE FIRST PHASE
Remember you can do it. You will get through this.Remember to breath, your emotions are intense keep breathing.
It’s ok to cry. Accept how you feel and let it out.
Keep yourself surrounded by people who are helping you. Your thoughts are hard to work through stay surronded with those who will listen, let them out.You lost your loved one to the hands of another human being you are full of rage and anger. Stay away from others who encourage or promote your anger.
Drink plenty of water. You may have lost your appetite completely stay hydrated. Avoid running to alcohol or drugs.Its only making things harder.
Find a place you shared with your loved one to visit or a space of your own that brings peace and serenity. My spot was at the edge of the bay watching the water. I talk to Damian there and shed my tears.
Tell yourself over and over that its ok. Say it to yourself. Say it as you cry. “Its Ok”. ” Im strong”.
These are tips for the first couple of days. The initial onset is literally taken minute by minute.All you will be thinking is “why”. You’ll make it to day by day soon. Dont give up, press forward and fight.